love is just love

I woke up this morning with this blog in my head. Before I found out about NC. Before I found out about Obama's announcement.

When I was in my late teens... I really can't remember my exact age... 18 probably.
Mom: your [family member] is a lesbian
Me: which one?
skip that part and forward to the rest of the conversation
Mom: She's getting married
Me: when? we can go right?
Mom: I actually have no idea what she said... but it was probably along the lines of I don't know or something
Me: We have to go. [Family member] is getting married. She's family. We have to.

I thought nothing of the fact that she was a lesbian. I don't recall having any emotion. It just was.

I was watching United States of Tara the other day (I am SO addicted to this show) and the son came out to his dad...
Son: I'm Gay
Dad: Good

I personally feel that sexuality is on a spectrum. I can be attracted to a woman, this does not make me a lesbian or bisexual, it's just that the person is physically attractive. You hear it all the time "I have a girl crush on..." Granted men don't tend to say something along the lines of "I have a boy crush on..." but we are wired differently. And I have a hard time believing that 100% of heterosexual men do not have some sort of attraction to the same sex. Sorry. I don't.

I simply don't understand why people don't want to "believe" in homosexuality or want to fight against it or whatever. I don't. It actually makes me sick. If someone wants to use the Bible... I can debate that point ad nauseam... I can pretty much debate every argument. How about child rearing? Yeah, we'll go there... how many heterosexual couples have homosexual kids? Exactly.

I read an article that most people who disagree with LGBTQ rights don't know someone who identifies within the LGBTQ spectrum. That I believe. If someone you love and care for comes out eventually most people come around and continue loving and caring for that person. They also feel that person should obtain the same rights we have. They're called rights for a reason. What's just? What's true? Is it just if you're denying someone to visit their dying partner? Is it just that when I marry a man I will be assured to obtain his insurance, pension, etc, but my family member won't? Is it right that I will never have to fight for the children that I raise because my partner birthed them? Is it just that there are children suffering in the foster care system when gay, lesbian, queer, transgender couples want to adopt them and provide safe, consistent, loving homes?

What's wrong with loving someone? Anyone? Same sex... Opposite sex... Genderqueer... Intersex... Transgender.... I think nothing. I think that the more love in the world the better. People will be happier. What's wrong with a little happiness? As long as it's a consensual, equal, loving partnership go ahead- love away. What the world needs now is love sweet love.